How To Have An Affair | The Guide

If you’re reading this, there’s a strong chance you’re considering cheating on your spouse – but not leaving him / her. Deciding to have an affair is a personal choice.

People start thinking about cheating for various reasons. For some, it comes in waves. For others, it’s a persistent feeling; a thought you just can’t shake.

When considering a move like this, you need to become extremely honest with yourself. Only you understand your true motivations for starting on this path. Not being completely honest with yourself will only hinder you, and burden you with guilt, or worse: simply get you caught.

The first thing we need to examine is why you want to cheat discreetly instead of leaving your spouse. Here’s a few things you need to consider.

Affairs are not all about sex, but they are mostly about sex or sex-related feelings


Sex makes us feel good on multiple levels. It’s not just the physical part. The entire range of euphoric emotions that come with feeling aroused play a huge part in the satisfaction that we get from sex. It’s fun to seduce, and it’s fun to be seduced. It makes us feel good again.

For a lot of us, somewhere down the line, our marriage went from being fun to being complicated and tiring. My good friend Mike sums up best:

“We used to go into the city, party all night and screw in the back of cars. It was awesomely hot. Now, it’s all about bills, diapers and strip malls every other weekend. I needed to have some excitement back in my life before I went crazy.”

We do NOT endorse you cheat on your spouse. We discourage it. But we also acknowledge that circumstances could drive you into a very unsatisfying and complex mental state. All people have various dimensions of needs. In an ideal marriage all needs are met and managed by partners. Yet we do not live in an ideal world.

Happily ever after is very very rarely all that happy.

If you are like most people you are at a point in your life you lie in bed wondering if you could cross that boundary. if you could JUST HAVE ONE LITTLE FLING of excitement and nobody would ever know. If you could be ASSURED your wife/husband would never know and it wouldn’t hurt them.


You’re NOT A BAD PERSON.

We decided to build this guide as an effort to help SAVE the families from the devastation that comes from the discovery of infidelity. Research has proven that affairs more often HELP marriages if kept discrete, because it meets some unfulfilled needs.


THERE IS A WIN/WIN SITUATION POSSIBLE…

With the above said, we introduce THE AFFAIR GUIDE, a phased approach to handling all aspects of an affair. Our guide is structured into the following parts:

Phase 1: Understanding Affairs

Here you’ll find the characteristics of what makes for a good affair. If this is your first time on this site, start here. You’ll learn that affairs are more sex-centered and less love-centered. We discuss the advantages and disadvantages of short VS long term affairs. You’ll find useful information on both points.

Phase 2: Setup Your Affair

Everything you need to do BEFORE you start looking for partners – from understanding how people get caught to hiding your communications.

Phase 3: Find & Meet Good Affair Partners

If you’re going to cheat, finding the right people to cheat with is key. The finer points of where to look and how to interact with prospective partners are discussed here.

Phase 4: Control Your Affair

Once you’re in neck-deep, you need to know some basic things to avoid your affair going from a fun fling to an emotional disaster. We discuss how to minimize drama from your affair partner and stay in control of the situation.

WARNING: IF YOU’RE CHECKING THIS PAGE FROM A COMPUTER THAT YOUR SPOUSE HAS ACCESS TO, YOUR FIRST ACTION SHOULD BE TO LEARN TO CLEAR YOUR INTERNET HISTORY AND WHAT TO DO TO SECURE YOUR COMPUTER FROM FURTHER HISTORY TRACKING.

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